Moish, you are lucky that you have never been in that situation. I hope you never are.
this is gonna sound really weird, but i hope i don’t die before my parents. that’s not the way it’s supposed to work. (they should live and be well – but they’ll reach 120 way before i do…)
and you think that’s what it is? i would imagine it because it’s the last time they get to do something for that person. why not do it right? i don’t mean to LOOK for every chumra out there. but why dig to get off the hook? (in general, it’s no big deal to say something is assur, but it takes a real rabbi to find a heter.)
i don’t know – maybe i’m very off.