and you think that’s what it is? i would imagine it because it’s the last time they get to do something for that person. why not do it right? i don’t mean to LOOK for every chumra out there. but why dig to get off the hook? (in general, it’s no big deal to say something is assur, but it takes a real rabbi to find a heter.)
moish, your understanding of people is pretty good. When my grandfather died, that was my mother’s attitude-this is the last time that I can do anything for my father and I want to do it right.
~a~