lesschumras:
Lying and deceit are two different concepts both based on the same principle. Lying is when an untruth is stated. Deceit is when the uncomfortable details in the story are left unmentioned.
Dating through a shadchan should be about giving each person a chance on their own merits and not on the basis of one being better than the next.
If you want to hang out with the other gender, go right ahead. Just don’t give them the impression you’re giving them your full mind when you know all you’re doing is comparing.