If all the girls you are looking for are looking for something else, change some of the search criteria. I am not meaning change your priorities etc, I mean you must be looking in the wrong box. No doubt there is another one with girls that would interest you who are looking for someone like you. For instance, pick a different shadchan, or a different seminary, or a different neighborhood. As NOMTW pointed out, what you are asking for sounds great, you just haven’t spoken in the right ears yet.
Hatzlacha!