far east- totally agree. its like a wife telling her husband she bought out all the cigaretes in the state and dumped them in the river so her teen wont smoke. most addicted husbands will get in the car and go on a road trip.
i want to amend my advice- better then starting with a therapist, go to an acclaimed chosson or kallah teacher who deals with these matters. theyre way more involved then a rov can be, and they sometimes can be the therapist, too.