PBA – when you spout words of insanity out of nowhere it is often harmless. I wish you would refrain from doing so when you haven’t a clue and the topic is more serious. If you prevent even one person from doing the right thing because of that chip on your shoulder, it would be a real shame.
In addition to what Health said, Guardyoureyes.com encourages people to go for counseling but it also conducts 12 step groups by phone which is nothing at all like getting help from self help books. Many people have gotten good advice and chizuk at crucial times in their marriages from “chatting” with others in their situation (not just reading about them in books) and the conference calls (I think they have for both men and women)are run by trained 12 step leaders.