Bustercrown -“As some here already know, I’m one of those In a bad marriage with a spouse whose addicted to Internet. He denies there’s a problem and refuses to get help. We had seval marriage counselors try to help, my spouse rejected all their advice as soon as it didn’t suit him. He made promises only to break them. I believe my spouse won’t get real help unless the kids and I leave him.”
Please read my posts in the other topic. Even though I’m divorced, I by no means am an expert. My field is medicine, not mental health. I did write over there that as a last resort s/o can give an ultimatum and if he doesn’t go to therapy -she should divorce him. I’m not going back on my words, but after reading your post carefully, I don’t think you’re at that stage yet.
“He denies there’s a problem and refuses to get help. We had seval marriage counselors try to help, my spouse rejected all their advice as soon as it didn’t suit him. He made promises only to break them.”
I understand that this is a very emotional thing that you are going through, but right here you are not being honest. There is a difference between refusing to get help and going to therapy and rejecting their advice. If the latter is what’s really going on, then there are a few options besides divorce.
One option is -not every therapist is suited for e/o. I’m not saying these therapists are incompetent, just sometimes people need a certain personality type in a therapist. Perhaps you need to try other therapists -for the right one?
Sometimes even when the therapist is suited to the client and they’re still not getting anywhere -it’s because additional help is needed. This help is taking medication. The person to see for this is a psychiatrist. A psychiatrist will evaluate the person to determine if meds are needed. This btw, is a common scenario -lots of people who are not improving in therapy, all of a sudden when the meds kick in – it’s like nite & day.