Kfb, I know at least 3 such people. There was a time where it almost felt like I was the common factor of all of them, and I joked that I was making people go otd. These were really shtark guys who were some of the best learners I knew. It can happen to anyone, and there’s not too much we can do about it except consult with an “adam gadol”, as Health put it, and maybe just talk to the person and try to hang out with them to influence them to come back, or at least retain some shaychus to frumkite. For some people its a “phase”, for others its terminal. The most important thing is to realize that you are doing your hishtadlus and whatever happens, happens; its not in our control, and, while we mourn, we shouldn’t get depressed about it.
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