“It’s highly unlikely that they were really Frum. This occurs in the MO community more than others.”
What occurs in the MO community more than others??
That they were not really frum? That they send them to orthodox schools because it’s the social thing?
I’m surprised that you would say such a thing. It’s a blanket statement about an entire community that has no bearing on reality. With all due respect, you couldn’t possibly have known the MO community first hand if that’s what you think.
Within the MO community there are many different levels of yiddishkeit. Mainstream MO do not send to yeshiva because it’s the “in thing”. They send their kids to yeshiva as any frum family would to educate their kids in Torah and yiddishkeit. Just check out the Teaneck community and you’ll see what I mean. They have tons of yeshivas, shuls, shiurim, etc. Those families could’ve moved anywhere to fit in.