There are many OTD people who imho are better people than many on the derech…
Why do people make life decisions? There are a thousand reasons. Do you really know that because someone makes a decision that on the outside looks to be wrong that it truly is not for the better? I think taking them out of an inheritance is stupid, and I think blaming it on the parents is stupid as well. Do we actually perceive someone who decides not to wear tzitzis and a yarmulke as having failed himself and his family? Is that really the sum total of life and its challenges? If someone sees the world a little differently than we do, is that somehow a sign that somebody messed up somewhere? Isn’t one of Judaism’s “claim to fame” the fact that we don’t believe all goyim are going to hell? Is that because they’re just too stupid to know better, or perhaps because what they believe actually has merit too and deserves respect? Sometimes it amazes me how close-minded people can be.