Yehuda Tzvi, we all feel your pain and understand it. The point you make about other adult “monsters” is not and applicable comparison because in this case a child abuser has been caught at the start of his career and can still be rehabilitated. He cannot be considered a monster until which time it is determined that his act was premeditated and planned, and that his intention was to satisfy his own need while knowing that he was intentionally harming his victim. That would be a monster at any age. Since you do not know the story behind the child molester’s actions you might feel that he is a monster, and I will agree with you that his actions to this young child were monstrous and devastating but I can’t agree to label him a monster until such time that it is determined that his intention was evil and that he is not a victim himself acting out on what was done to him.
I commend the parents of the girl for calling the authorities, I commend he authorities for taking proper action and the court for doing the same. I also commend th boy”s parents for being parents and doing whatever they can for heir son and I encourage them to help him reveal the truth and get the help he needs. I encourage the parents and the son to recognize the severity of his actions and to show sincere remorse and do whatever is necessary for the victim and the parents to heal from this utter violation of them.
I commend you, Yehuda Tzvi for your generosity of heart and soul, getting involved as you did and recognizing that the professionals need to handle the situation. We really need to understand that with such a seriously delicate situation we can make it worse for a victim when we don’t have the proper knowledge and experience, and our mistakes can cause the victim more pain and trauma. What you can do for yourself as well as your friends is to offer them whatever support they need from you during this difficult period. Also since you know the Rav is speak to your Rav about him going to the boy’s parents, him not you, to encourage them to get whatever therapy their son needs and to make sure he has a shomer 24/7 until he is cured from this disease.
Threatening the parents is not going to help the situation. Offering support to the boys parents whether in getting him therapy, or providing the shomrim will lessen their burden and sense of horror as well as being overwhelmed by the entire situation. This is something only the Rabbonim in the neighborhood can do, and most likely they would only trust the Rabbonim with this issue. But that might be one thing Debbie Fox will do so you won’t have to. I am only making the suggestion because it seems that you need to do something.
On an aside you asked who I was referring to in reference the October 30case. That would be the case of edited, who is charged with horrendous crimes of molestation against a high school girl over a period of three years. The student was threatened with expulsion if she didn’t see this untrained, unlicensed counselor. The school did not even check to see if he took precautions against having yichud with the young girls. After three years of forcing the parents to pay this menuval, and the child being abused by him, the school expelled her anyway and while speaking to the guidance counselor in her new school, she revealed what had happened with her prior counselor. As a mandatory reporter the guidance counselor immediately called the authorities. After two years of schlepping this out, the trial is scheduled to begin October 30. Now Yehuda Tzvi what would you label this grandfatherly molester.
Sorry about the edit. I have no problem posting names and places, but I can’t without personally verifying and I don’t have time to do that.