Someone who refuses to get help when it is warranted and is draining the resources that they currently have needs to be pushed in the right direction in a supportive manner. “I have done everything I know how to do for you, and I will continue to do what I can as long as you get the appropriate help that you need. I can only support you as long as you make the right choices for yourself. I can’t support you in destructive behaviors, nor can I support you if you refuse to help yourself. It is way too much of a responsibility for me. I love you, but I can’t take such a huge responsibility on my shoulders. Please think about what I am saying. I am not a therapist nor am I trained in a manner that is appropriate to assist you with all your issues. I can only be a friend to you and do the best I can for you and for myself as well. And as a true friend I am telling you I am I can only support you if you get the proper help that you need.”
How does that sound?