Simcha, I don’t think that the video meant that we should treat all Jews exactly the same in every way, no matter what “category” they fit into. The point is that we should treat them all with kindness and compassion and greet them with a cheerful countenance. How can we shun a fellow Jew and refuse to even look at him or talk to him? Every time that happens it’s a big chillul Hashem, making people think frum Jews are less kind than chilonim.
CRuzer, I see what you’re saying. But if we truly loved Hashem, then we should love all his creatures, and especially all the members of his people, right? While if we’re just scared of being punished, then we may not love our fellow creatures and Jews will all our hearts, and with all our deeds.