I’l leave to others to debate what selichos are for, how they should be said and what one should feel. I do, however, want to rebut a true slander -motzi shem ra-by WIY, when he says that
1)there was no mechitza in that shul- absolutely not true -this is an orthodox shul and men and women were separated during the tefillos with the appropriate mechitza. (You may want to pray in a shul where the women are cooped up in a different room but R”moshe zz’l already took care of that).
2) Secondly – to assert that there was “taaruvos’- how ? Certainly, during the selichos there was no taaruvos.
3) “none of they guys and girls looked at each other and had bad thoughts”. Now you can read minds? Only one being in the world can see in our hearts and minds and that is HKBH. For everyone else , it is “motzi shem ra”.
So,please, you are welcome to run your life as you wish but allow everyone to find his/her derech to HKBH in his/her way.