“My brother brought his date (right before getting engaged) a bag of flour and told her to bake him something.”
He’s a jerk. Or he’s funny. I’m deciding…
WIY: Unless she’s unstable, which you can tell from even one meeting, she will keep as control as the house as she feels you deserve. It’s basic human psychology that if a woman feels loved she will give everything in return but if she feels unappreciated she will resent you and lose interest in keeping things nice.