“I am helpful and would pitch in with whatever is necessary as often as necessary but I want her to be the mommy and take care of the kids, make supper and make sure the house looks decent.”
FYI: Even the most capable woman who juggles work, housekeeping and raising her kids, will find that her husband’s help is necessary most (if not all) days. Being a mother is physically and emotionally draining, so be prepared for that reality.
“I understand that some guys are satisfied with a simple girl who will just be home all day watching the kids. I need someone more dynamic and a “doer.”
Okay, I’m not even married yet and I find that offensive. There is nothing “simple” about raising children to become the kind of adults that will make Hashem proud. She won’t just be watching the kids. She’ll be raising them.
I get that it’s not easy being married to someone who gets ovewhelmed easily and who has difficulties juggling responsibilies. But even supermom wants to be appreciated for her hard work. Being a capable person, doesn’t mean that you don’t find the work as hard as the next person. Just that you handle it better. Hopefully you will find that capable girl, but she deserves the support and appreciation no matter how well she handles things. And all the more so if she holds down a job too.