Do you wish to settle down & get married? or do you wish to investigate everything to the nth degree from the vantage point of the old spinster?
Although I read your 1st post with interest, but when on your 2nd posting you mentioned that you have been dating for 1/2 decade, this raised a flag & for your good, I am startling you wish my blunt question, as probably no-one has ever been so blunt with you.