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Are you looking for his flaws because you pick up on something that you can’t quite put your finger on, or is it because you are just scared of creating an emotional attachment? Either way, he for sure has flaws- everyone does, the only question is, do you feel they are flaws you can live with, or ones that you cannot? If you cannot detect his flaws then either he is really good at hiding them, or they just don’t bother you. Stop being so judgmental and just try to get to know the guy better… Also, have a good time – nobody likes being interrogated.
trying to find something wrong with him is pretty normal try to get to know him more
there is NO solid advice in shidduchim in the end it really is up to you and hashem
everyone has some flaw or another
dating (in my opinion) is trying to find the person with flaws you feel you can handle and/or even be happy with
when in doubt daven hashem wont let you down in the end anything he does will be what is right for you
good luck
Say more about the times he makes you want to go home and avoid being with him.
If you have “real” friends, why would you base such a huge life decision on the opinions of a blog by people who know nothing about you?
Honesty is the best policy- tell the boy what you are feeling. If he can’t deal with your feelings he is not for you- if he can deal with them he might allay all your fears! Good luck!
There is nothing wrong with times of silence, unless they make you uncomfortable. One doesn’t have to keep on talking when there’s nothing to say!
If the silences are very prolonged, or are uncomfortable, try discussing something you heard in a shiur.
Hatzlocha!
Many guys are just the quiet type. Peaceful silence, while being together, is exactly what makes us tick.
Do you wish to settle down & get married? or do you wish to investigate everything to the nth degree from the vantage point of the old spinster?
Although I read your 1st post with interest, but when on your 2nd posting you mentioned that you have been dating for 1/2 decade, this raised a flag & for your good, I am startling you wish my blunt question, as probably no-one has ever been so blunt with you.
As a guy who is dating I often have moments of silence. Most guys have no training in having a nonstop conversation for 3-5 hours. It is unnatural for many men to have a nonstop fluid one on one conversation with even someone they love. I think you should take that into account and that most of your married life (I’m guessing, I’m still single) will not be spent on 5 hour conversations.
Talk to the guy!
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