I dont think anyone feels for older singles more than my friends and myself, because we all have very close older single male and female relatives.
BUT- theres always a but unfortunately-
1. I recently spoke to a very well known and highly regarded Rov about this topic. He said “something has to be done”. I said- short of creating new 30/40/50 year old guys, theres not much that can be done as far as a good solution. The Rov replied that girls and parents have to realize that girls have a small window of opportunity to look for a Shidduch- in their early twenties. After that it becomes much more difficult. They have to realize this when they become that age. It only gets harder for most girls after that.
Unfortunately I cant disagree.
Comfort often sets in and some singles refuse to date. Without dating, the potential for getting married very much decreases.
Parents have to realize this when their single is younger and they have more input.
2. Someone told me that recently an older single girl wrote to the Mishpacha (I think) about how she was a guest at a Rov’s house. The Rov said he has the solution for older singles if the older singles would only want to hear it.
He said it would be very nice if everyone was able to live their dreams, and marry the type of person they always envisioned, but thats impossible.
The girl understood the Mashal and married a boy she would have never married years before. She had children and was writing to say how happy she was.
Consult your Rov. He can guide you.
And yes, while singles search, they should be treated as adults and with respect. They should never be abandoned by their friends, as is often the case with hundreds of reasons, none of them valid.
Gmar Tov.