PuhLease, I wish you Hatzlacha and condone you for not going public with your life issues.
My question though is the following:
Which lifestyle/religion is perfect? Every system in any area/walk of life will have unhappy people and “flaws”. We are humans and by definition are imperfect.
If you tell me that a majority of people in this circle are unhappy that would be one thing, but for some unhappy bitter people to paint the entire religion as oppressive, abusive, in such a negative light is just embarrassing and falsehood.
It would be comparable to having a bad experience at a dentist and then going on TV and accusing all dentists as being evil/awful.
I don’t want to belittle her issues or yours G-d Forbid, but as you stated before, the Religion was not meant to be lived this way, the fact that some lunatics do shouldn’t be relective of the entire religion.