I think it has more to do with opening yourself up, thinking through issues, revealing things you want in life, risking emotional investment, and trying to figure out if the person you’re with could be the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. I think that is a very difficult and possibly tiring activity. It is great that dhl144 has not found it either. A positive attitude about the whole business is the best and makes the time involved pass more easily, but not everyone is on a level that they can show such patience and gratitude.
Hatzlacha in finding your bashert!!