The shidduch process looks at qualifications in the same manner as a college looks at a prospective student: GPA, SAT scores, extracurricular activities, legacy status, references. Colleges try to estimate which students are most likely graduate, but it’s not a precise process.
So “qualifications” like scraping vs. stacking, number of crazy uncles in the family, paper/plastic, tablecloth color, and mother’s seatbelt usage are being used as metrics to estimate likelihood of marital success. Sheesh! We may as well be looking at shape of teeth or pronounciation of chOlam vs. chOYlam as qualifiers for marriage!
@postsemgirl- Galus is right! Shidduchim have been relegated to the realm of the insane!!!
@dhl144- keep on having fun! But don’t forget: GET MARRIED!