I don’t know why ‘toeva’ marriages are so bothersome to people or why you extrapolate from a very specific word used by the Torah concerning men that the female counterpart is also called ‘toeva.’ The act under discussion is described by the Torah as toeva and therefor it is so but can anyone explain why we’re bothered by them getting married? They’re doing whatever we call toeva anyway, all this does is give them a certificate for calling themselves a married couple. I’ve heard several arguments against ‘toeva’ marriage but I’m yet to be convinced. I’ve heard it’s about the sanctity of marriage – we don’t respect a civil union anyway, we have our own weddings and would happily leave it at that so as far as I’m concerned, let them ruin the sanctity of the civil dress up weddings. Someone help?
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