A wife’s obligation towards her children is to give them self confidence and encouragement. She comforts them when they fail, and encourages them so they don’t surrender, but move on to grow and accomplish despite their failures. She draws from the confidence of her husband in her (if he mistreats her, mocks her, or puts down her abilities, chances are she will not be able to give her children the right amount of self confidence unless she is totally, one hundred percent confident in herself and disregards what her husband says which is unlikely considering that most women value their husband’s opinion).
Her obligation towards her husband is to help him reach his potential. She should send him out to learn whenever possible, greet him with a smile (and most importantly FOOD) when he comes home at the end of the day. It is vital that a woman understand that men need food or they become grouchy and don’t listen; as the saying goes: “the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach”. Today, while many women work (and usually because the parnassah is needed) we forget that it is MAN’s curse to work the land, we have a big enough burden of raising children, there’s no reason to add to it if you don’t need to. We are introduced to women in the Torah as Chava: eim kol Chai–that’s the role, to be an ezer K’negdo and a mother to her chidren and sometimes even her husband. Plant, encourage, and nurture greatness in your child.