A wife is obligated to do certain tasks for her husband for the sake of endearment. These tasks include pouring his cup, making his bed and standing before him to attend to his wishes such as getting a drink. There is a dispute as to whether these tasks are obligatory or optional. The Yerushalmi Kesubos (5:6) clearly holds they are obligatory for the wife to do them. Rashi (Kesubos 61a) and others hold that they are optional – simply advice that our Sages gave to increase the husbands liking of his wife. Shulchan Aruch rules it obligatory.
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