Given your total information, I think there is only seminary that you should consider, and that would consider you.
To recap –
You’re early admissions.
That pretty much rules out Meohr and Ateres and most of the more Bais Yaakovy places. (They’ll only look at early admissions if you’re an academic superstar.)
Youre not great with Hebrew – Again, most of these places are big on textual academics.
Meohr may still be an option, but Ateres has upgraded in that area. You could sneak in, but why would you want to if their focus is text and you’re not good at it or dont like it.
And dont kid yourself, this is not the year it’s going to change. If it hasn’t worked for 12 years, then you’re just not cut out for it.
Chofetz Chaim type – Rules out most BY places, other than maybe Seminar and BYA. Meohr has girls of middle-level frumkeit, but more New Yorky (Flatbushy), not the outta town type you seem to be.
You want out-of-town type girls.
Meohr is pretty ruled out there. Seminar and Bnos Sarah are in, but BS is very academic and probably too frum.
College plans – Only a problem for Super-frum places, Hadar and tiferes, but those arent relevant to you anyway.
Non-Jewish music – An issue in every seminary but denied in most. From among your choices, only Meohr would admit to it existing by them. And why be in a place where you have to deny what you’re working on.
The only place that fits ALL of your criteria is Peninim. You can literally tick every box and thats what they have/are.
The hesitation about “chevra” was real last year and the year before. It had a large percentage of serious problem girls. They totally revamped, actually thought about closing down, but decided to try very hard at being more selective, and they were successful.
My daughter is there this year and she’s thrilled, both with the seminary and also with the girls, which she was very nervous about beforehand.
She is very similar to how you describe yourself, and so are all the other girls. Obviously, people arent EXACTLY the same, but they’re all that type…what we call out-of-town type frum. Or “Chofetz Chaim” – for lack of a better word.
My daughter loves everything about Peninim, classes, teachers, is making great strides in the low-pressure environment, and is already talking about a second year.
I’m not sure if I should say “Help” or “Halevai”!