Hey guys, some of you should take a good look in the mirror. Girls don’t want fatsos either! But they don’t ask if the boy is a 38 or 42. They don’t say the largest boy they will go out with is a 42 tall or 36 waist do they? Why is it that Shadchanim have no qualm presenting a 42 inch waist to a size 0 girl. That is enough to crush her and make her stop breathing. So why doesn’t everyone take a reality check here? Boys and girls are no different in that area. Everyone wants a good looking and healthy looking spouse. But if a guy is looking for a size 0 girl you had better know that she is looking for a 32 in waist. So just as you guys expect the girls to diet, you had better give up your bagels and doughnuts as well and hit the gym.
Furthermore, for all you genius guys out there. Guess what happens when your tiny wives become pregnant? They can gain anywhere from 25 – 50 lbs and not all of them are going to lose all that weight. And if they have another one the next year they are going to add another 25 – 50 lbs. Get the message? A size 2 can become a size 8 or 10 very quickly if not larger. And if you have a healthy appetite and she is cooking to your heart’s desire, she might just join you or keep up with you. What then, she might just start fitting into your pants.
So both young men and young women, parents and shadchanim have to have a better outlook on this situation as well as mechanchim and Roshei Yeshivas. As for you don’t lose weight to get a shidduch, lose weight because you need to be healthy for yourself and you need to feel good about yourself. If you like yourself at this weight then embrace yourself and your body and be happy for who you are.