TikkunHatzot-
you are so right! I always think about that point. Woman always complain that men care about looks too much and are too external. On the other hand, many girls are unrealistic about boys when it comes to money, jobs etc.(are they a professional? did they go to college?) That is being very external as well! Girls have to be consistent in this area.
As for the journal idea- that is so interesting that you brought that up! I was thinking about doing that for a while now. Instead of all the days mushing into each other, a journal might help us keep focus, and try to make the most of each and every day.