i was guilty of only wanting a “model” when i was dating, too. every girl i went out with was not pretty enough. then i went out with my (then future) wife. i came home and my parents asked me about her, expecting the usual physical run-down. i rehashed the entire conversation we had on the date. when they asked me what she looked like. i couldn’t remember!!!! i was just soo smitten!!! (it turns out my wife was a size 12; i dont mind admitting, since nobody here knows who i am).
ps. after 5 kids, she still is a size 12!!
moral of the story: when it’s right, it’s right. have faith.do your hishtadlus; HKB”H will handle the rest.
pps. my son is in shidduchim now, and we have discussed not focusing on weight/looks. he is naturally not interested in skinny, anyway. he is more worried about emotional health and personality. so to all you not-skinny girls i say, bring on the shidduch resumes!