pba Re: Posters who are pointing out that many women put on weight after kids anyway.
Most guys I know think that is a reason to insist on an even lighter girl than they imagine they can be attracted to. They think that if attraction is borderline now, then after kids they will not be able to handle it.
So this argument usually backfires. Don’t tell it to a guy who is concerned about a girl he is dating.
mom12 already addressed this point by saying:
I was a size 12-14 many years ago..and most of the boys I went out with didnt want to continue cuz of my weight- my mom was more upset than I was. and I kept saying whoever is only interested in my looks, and not what I am really all about..they are not for me!
Well at age 20something I finally got married to someone who saw what I was really worth! and got pregnant..
surprize-surprize during pregnany I first lost 11 lbs and then gained bak 16 lbs. so after birth instead of a bulge i had a pit in my stomach. and after that i went down to a size 6 (which my mom said I would never be) and stayed that way for quite a few years even during pregnancies. after a certain age it did not go down so fast though.. but by that time I was almost starting to marry off my own kids..
just as a by the way I got feedback from a few of the guys I met, they married skinny girls and as soon as they had a baby they beacame very overweight well guess who had the last laugh!
I know quite a few girls that became very thin during pregnancy and stayed that way!