maynish,
I like to read the CR to hear opinions and thoughts of others in the frum world on all the contemporary issues that are brought up here. However, it is posts like yours that make me doubt the validity and seriousness of posters. If you are for real, then you need a serious reality check and a big dose of some guidance. If you were throwing that in to stir some people up and create debate material, please know that I’m sure your post was very hurtful to many. This is a very, very, sensitive issue for ALL girls and women, whether they are thin or not, and the way that you, and the others who posted in a similar way to you, discuss women and their weights/figures is so degrading and humiliating it actually makes me sick.
I am all for guys being attracted to their wives/wanting to date and marry pretty women, etc. But it is not ok to discuss women like this–Bnos Yisrael deserve to be treated with utmost respect and sensitivity. Further, this whole discussion is a breach of tznius, in my very humble opinion, for men and women alike–I find it highly inappropriate to discuss the details of women’s body shape, before or after pregnancies, or their overall structure.
This topic has been discussed many times on these boards, and as the threads go on, the posts from the males perspective become more and more “loose” in their tone, and in their implications of how they want their women to look. I’m actually sitting at my computer embarrassed from the way this discussion has turned–I can’t believe that this is going on on a website that calls itself “yeshiva world”. I am reiterating again that while DO believe that as shidduchim go, men need to be attracted to the women they date AND VICE VERSA, limiting women to their figures, and then having the chutzpah to discuss your taivos proudly with the whole world, is downright demeaning and, frankly, sickening. Please, please stop–you have no idea what you are doing to so many girls by promoting this kind of talk.