nishtdayngesheft -“Oldman, “The question is what should someone do in a case where they are aware of such information, not specifically an ex.”
He understood the question and responded properly. How many guys do I know from BMG that still aren’t married? Quite a few. Why? Because s/o saw a Chessoron and gave the guy a bad reputation.
Wake up world – noone is perfect – e/o has Chessoronos and they have the right to get married anyway. So we have people who were killed due to s/o Bashmutzing them. Acc. to Halacha when seeking info about a Shidduch you have to ask direct info from people who know the guy/gal personally. You’re not allowed to ask people in general. Because what happens often enough -you get a response of -“I heard so and so – is this”. Most of the time it isn’t true, but even if it is, it’s not usually the full picture. Remember you are playing with fire. Peoples’ lives are in your hands.
And I really pity those guys/gals who destroyed others from getting married. Who knows if they can even get into Olam Haboh, even if they are guys who learn all day.