Mr. Doniel -“And, there have been bipolar people to go off their meds, murder their children, rape their wives, deplete bank accounts, etc. Caution is most needed.”
Yes, there are people who are Bipolar and Psychotic, but most Psychotics that I know in the Frum community were never diagnosed with anything. As a matter of fact they had good reputations before they got married and after their marriage is when they started doing bad things to others, including their wives.
I think you’re biased against Mentally Ill people. The reality is the chance that those things you mentioned above occuring, esp. s/o under care is extremely small.
Perhaps this is about your jealousy and your ego -trying to show the world and this girl -that you’re much better than this guy and that she lost out?
One last point to prove my theory -why did your friends/Rabbis even tell you about this guy in the first place? There was absolutely No Toieles to tell you. If for some reason they had a good intention, they would have contacted her family directly. If they didn’t know how to, they could have just asked you how to contact them without giving you the reason why they had to!