bygirl93 just thought I would clarify. I don’t know what they teach you in high school but guys are very interested in looks even the very shtark ones. Believe it or not but on the date they will check you out( discreetly). In fact, in yeshiva they are taught that they must be attracted to her. True, if someone marries a girl for only her looks he is an idiot, but as was already explained here he is just checking out her picture to see if there is a possibility of attraction.
I am curious if this is a fight between those who are unattractive/have unattractive wives and those that are attractive/have attractive wives (or unmarried males)