New2the scene –
I did go back and re-read your posts (plus the new ones)
You are not the target of my anger. In fact, you and I are on the same side of this issue. The boys I have issue with are the ones that are not taking the responsibilites of earing a living as seroiusly as the girls in shidduchim are. Therefore, they should not be complaining.
You, on the other hand, are taking your future responsibilites VERY serously, and while that does not give you a licence to complain (Don’t feel bad, I don’t have one either) more of your focus should be on who the person is, and less about what does she look like.
ON the whole, girls in shidduchim are very presentable. Focus on the person, not the packaging.