I know this sounds awful but it seems like the attractive girls have no problem sending a pic while the ones who feel they aren’t nice looking (maybe it’s in your head) don’t feel it is fair.
Imho, I think that sounds about right. Those who feel comfortable should send a pic, those who don’t shouldn’t. I believe the Gamara touches upon this point to that extent by Tu B’av, the girls who had beauty to offer, offered that, those who had other things, like yichus offered that, but they were all given a chance face to face to say what they had to offer.
Saying that an unattractive girl should send a photo isn’t fair. Though I found many girls who have a low self esteem tend to feel unattractive while they are mistaken.
When I was dating I did request photographs when the girl was oot,
or said not to be slim. There is nothing wrong with seeing a photo, especially when the requesting party is particular. It only saves the opposite party time and false hopes and unnecessary emotional distress. It is better to get a no from someone you never saw, maybe they’re not that handsome, bright, or nice.
However once you meet a guy/girl who seems handsome, bright, and nice,
Then he/she tells you no after first date, not so pleasant.
I’m talking from experience, so all you posters who base your opinions on theories, talk to real people who have gone through this before you assume you have it all figured out.
ootinny; i’m happy to hear. Whom have you gotten? 🙂
I’ve gotten celebs too, like George burns. j/k