YWN-42 “Providing a picture is proper hishtadlus if it gives you a better chance of getting a first date. Supposedly there is a shidduch crisis out there. Perhaps we should make takanos that a girl can only give a picture to a boy who is within a certain age gap of her.”
HaQer “So if a boy has to choose between a whole bunch of “great” girls what is he basing that decision on? It’s the little differences-one girl has a better job than another, has a better education, family etc. But even after all those things there is still a list, so why not go out with the prettiest first? Not only that, but all those little things that a resume might list will sound that much better when he has a picture in his mind that he likes.”
I should allow myself to get to a first date because of attraction? I’m worth more than that. Have some self respect people!
It is highly demeaning. I will never give a picture and I do not want to see one. It ought to be unacceptable to give a picture to a boy or his mother.
“This isn’t shallowness, it is human nature. So take advantage of it!”
Human nature is such that the more a person cares about a person, the more beautiful they become.
Looks are meant to be an enhancer and everything else should be the deciding factors. Sending the picture breeds shallowness and, unfortunately, it results in the reverse situation where the looks determine what makes or breaks the shidduch.