Logician: “Where are you coming from ?! Funny, I always thought it was the other way around – you naturally have a feeling, and that influences your mind, something you have to try to resist if necessary.”
It is called bechira. A person can convince them self of anything. I reflect back to when my a handful of friends/relatives were dating and were uncomfortable with the other’s looks. Now, months ahead (and others, years), they are obsessed with the other’s looks. I know I cannot see what they see and I remember their previous discomfort, but they wanted to love the all-inclusive picture of their spouse and it works.
Girls are not so desperate as you think, even if ‘boys have the upper hand’. Contrary to male belief, women were not created subsidiary to men. Why should we make acceptions in an area we hold against our values, because guys want it.