apushatayid – yeah well, we all agree about that, no one waas talking about that. We were discussing the idea of the boy seeing a picture first.
So you’re equating the picture problem with a boy getting a farher ? So if they’d be asking for the girls transcript, it would be just as “demeaning” ? So your problem is that they have to prove themselves ? But we’ve spent the last few pages here discussing the role of looks in dating and marriage. So is it really the hashkafa here, or just pride… (Which might be an issue – I DO think its not nice. Its just a different issue altogether)