Baal Boose,
1) Sure there was a point, that it’s not a numbers issue, rather it’s the fault of the way the litvish do shidduchim.
2) This is where you missed the point. The problem is that the boys are about three or four years older than the girls they marry, and since our generations are ??”? growing, there are more girls of marriageable age than boys (19-21 is generally marriageable for girls, not boys). My next post will explain in more detail.
3) I was stronger than I usually am because your tone was one of anger at the yeshivas, yeshiva bochurim, and roshei yeshiva.
4) What facts? All (or most) anecdotal observations (some of which I happen to agree with).
6) Yes it’s a problem, and if the numbers were reversed, the problem would likely be too many demands from the girls’ side.
7) Making more than the shver or father? Highly doubtful, certainly conjecture (at best, anecdotal).
8) I was addressing Oomis.
C) Do you advocate instead, that the shver should promise support and then renege? In many cases, the shver willingly tightens his belt to support his son-in-law. I also know of cases in which the son-in-law gave up the support when he realized that his shver was struggling. In (after?) point D), you seem to concede that the norm is not the ungrateful son-in-law squeezing his poor helpless shver, so we may agree on this more than disagree.
D) Your idea of equal support is a fine idea, but how could you expect to mandate it? If the numbers were equal, it would probably pretty much happen by itself.