shein – Why do fathers often support their son-in-laws but not their sons?
That’s not a rule; I know of cases of fathers supporting. It probably is more common that way, though, because of supply and demand. I’m not advocating for it, I’m just saying why I think it is that way.
apy – Can you please clarify how you understand it?
What’s not clear?
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oomis – In fact the Gemarah says that a man who does not teach his son a trade, teaches him to be a goniff (or something bad like that).
Yes , Kiddushin 30b – ??? ????? ???? ?? ????? ????? ?????? ????? ??????: ?????? ?”? ??? ????? ????? ??????
You left out the gemara at the end of the mesechta, 82b – ???? ??? ?????? ???? ???? ??? ?? ?????? ?????? ????? ???? ?? ??? ??? ???? .
Your point wasn’t about squeezing the shver; you said ALL men should work and limit their learning to “free time” (your capitilization).
We can debate how many people are “learning” full time who should be working, and we can debate how many people should be learning more than they do. But B”H your approach is not being followed, or it would be the end of Klal Yisroel as we know it; it would be a tragedy of the first order to stifle the development of talmidei chachomim.
squeak,
Just ask the school administrators whether there are more students in the younger grades, and ask the shadchanim whether they have more names of boys or girls, especially the older ones.
Why would the R”Y bother to sign on it if there’s no point?