real brisker-
if you looked in the seforim you would see that the zohar and the kisvei ari both talk about this topic and explain that it is a merit to have ur shidduch said in a bas kol… i.e. those are special people. Also, even if urs was mentioned, you can still change the gezeirah for better or worse thru choiser hishtadlus, aveiros, or tefillah. However, assuming ur main point was that as long as ur trying u shud hav bitachon that everything hashem does is for the best,i agree w u