I think we both agree that we think that there are too many singles unmarried and that, if possible, something should be done.
I think it’s amazing that you’ve really actually are trying to do something, instead of just sitting back.
Our only difference of opinion, though I may be incorrect, is what exactly is the goal.
From what I’m hearing, the goal is to get as many people married, no matter what – let’s just match them up with people close to their age, and the guys should just go out with these girls not because they may find their bashert this way, but because this is what the Jewish world needs. the guys should sacrifice their wants and needs for the girls.
that’s just not going to happen. then it seems like you’re saying, “we’ll force it to happen, by having shadchanim only set up the guys with those girls.”
my view is that I would like to see as many people married happily as possible, so my stress would be on helping both sides find what they are looking for. if we would somehow succeed at doing this, your complaint seems to be that then there would still be a number of singles unmarried; my answer is I don’t know if that’s true or not – I hear your numbers, but since I don’t think there is something reasonable to do about it, except as Dr. Pepper suggests (and you surely don’t oppose), let’s get more guys married off more quickly, once they do start going out.