problem that i have seen is what i’ve stated on many other threads is that people don’t know who they are, what they’re looking for, and/or how to explain to others what that might be.
other problems are people who don’t yet want to go out. (what often happens is that they are pushed to do so before they’re ready, and then a few years down the road, when they really are ready, they’re not coming with the same “oomph” and excitement because they already feel that they’ve been going out for a while.