Reply To: A third of Litvish families I know, have one or more single daughters 25 and up

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July 13, 2011 6:04 pm at 6:04 pm #909343
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AZ — I think NASI is a great organization and agree with a lot of your points. I am very confused about one aspect — your idea of boys dating earlier. I understand your opinion, but you keep saying comments like “the 70 R”Y agree” or even stronger language (“take responsibility” “advise this course of action”). That is definitely NOT accurate. There may be some of the R”Y who agree that boys should date younger, but nothing in the letter says anything like that. The letter basically says close in age shidduchim should be promoted, and shadchanim should give priority to older GIRLS. I happen to know first hand that at least 2 of the R”Y on the list strongly do NOT agree that boys should be dating younger and feel that girls should be getting married slightly older instead. I’m not sure that having girls wait is something that is practical, as parents are so nervous about the crisis they may not agree, but that doesn’t mean the R”Y agree with the reverse.