AZ: The bottom line is that it seems our main disagreement is very limited. We both agree that 21 and 22 year old boys who are ready should be free to go out, and presumably you agree that a 22 or 23 year old who is not ready should be allowed to wait. The difference is that according to you this would be a radical departure from the current procedure and according to me is the unchanged reality.
Or if you prefer: you see an ominous Orwellian Big Brother forcing hundreds of 22 year old bochurim who are dieing to begin shidduchim to wait for some ominous “collusion” that threatens anyone foolish enough to date before his 23rd birthday. I see a healthy sense of individualism where each person does approximately what he estimates to be appropriate to the level of his maturity.