hello99,
We’ll have to disagree about 1 & 2, although AZ says there are other studies, and as I pointed out and you ignored, the Avichai study showed 2% decades ago, with growth in the growth rate.
In an article on the subject, Yonason Rosenblum assumes 4% as well. It’s on the cross-currents site, here’s a link if it’s allowed through.
http://www.cross-currents.com/archives/2009/11/05/confronting-the-shidduch-crisis/
On point 3, you would sacrifice the many girls who don’t have commitment issues etc. for those who do. I’m not saying there aren’t other issues, but let’s at least level the numbers to give everyone a chance! You would have many girls have no chance even if there were no other issues, and exacerbate the problem much further since there are other issues. According to your logic, we should close all hospitals since some patients have no known remedy, despite the fact that many do!
On points 4 and 5, we seem to agree that it’s a bigger issue than either of us can decide (I’m not sure why you concede this on point 4 but not on point 5). 70 non-anonymous R”Y agree to the idea of closing the age gap. Since you’re against both boys marrying when younger and girls marrying when older, your definitely not on the same page as them.
On point 6, I’m glad you’re not in total disagreement, but I don’t understand why you refer to a smaller window of marriageability. If a girl gets married at 22, her window was already smaller, let her have a mazel tov now!