I’m very confused. Every bachur I try to redt a shidduch to is always busy with a girl and has this loooong list of names. What names do these bachurim have, if not for girls? Is the same girl on everyones list that we are talking about an imbalance? Girls cant get dates because you redt a shidduch to a a guy and he adds the name to his list and never does anything with it. Shadchanim are facilitating girls getting put on lists, not going out with anyone. I propose shadchanim revoke a shidduch suggestion from a bachur after a reasonable amount of time passes without a firm commitment (yes or no) from the bachur. If it happens enough times, the list will dwindle to nothing and suddenly bachur (and his mother) will start getting nervous about how he has no dates. In fact, I think the whole process should be reversed with shadchanim mentioning the names of bachurim to the girls first. Let them compile long lists of boys names and take their time making decisions. Within a year we will be hearing about all those “older” bachurim who cant get a date.
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