DY. I think you are wrong. Girls get lost and waste lots of time on “lists”. If family “a”, utilizes shadchan cohen, and shadchan cohen mentions the girl to 4 boys who “are looking into her”, this girl does nothing but sit around until shadchan cohen gets back to her. Lets say she is lucky and after all is said and done after a month bachur gets back to shadchan cohen. Then the girls family spends a week looking into the boy. Finally, they agree to go out. If they go out 2-3 times, that might be over the course of 2-3 weeks. If it doesnt work out, its back to the drawing board. How many guys might a girl go out with in a year in this scenario, 5? 6? The avg guy on the other hand has shadchanim fawning all over him and can go out with 2,3 or more girls in a month if he wanted to, all the while keeping 3-4 girls in his back pocket “just in case”.
With all the statistics everyone is throwing around, has anyone done a study on girls and boys dating for 18 months, how many girls the avg guy might have dated during that time, compared to the number of guys the avg girl may have dated?