PBA -“But after the wedding, it switches. Then the woman is in charge.”
Even if your implication is true all the time, which I don’t believe it to be (just some of the time) -I disagree with your post. You say if the men would know the truth -then you imply they wouldn’t get married. I do agree with you that some women are like this, but what makes you think their husbands’ wouldn’t have married them? These guys would marry them anyway -some because it’s a Mitzva and some because they need to be henpecked -they can’t make a decision on their own!